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Paul Anderson
Posted on 31 Jan 2023 9:11 am

As are all false allegations so should we stop the use of domestic abuse in family courts too. Or should we allow trained judges and professionals decise if a child is being alienated from a parent or not. Womensaid do not deny the existance of parental alienation in their submission to government they actuallly cite research that explicity
in your "Submission on Parental Alienation June 2022 state " - we regularly hear from women experiencing domestic abuse that the perpetrator
actively undermines the bond between the mother and the children both before, during and after
In Women’s Aid Direct Services experience most women with children, particularly from age 7/8+,
report attempts by fathers to ‘turn the kids against her’. Women have reported to us throughout
the years that the abuser often tells children lies about their mothers; denigrates her to the
children, undermines her authority and manipulates the children against her. For example, by
using children to spy on the mother and report to him or by encouraging them to join in the
verbal or even physical abuse of the mother.
Children end up blaming her for his abusive behaviour and align themselves with the father
against her.
Women feel deeply upset by the weaponisation of their children, and while these tactics are by
no means always successful many women can be really undermined.
In some cases, women told us that the relationship with their children has broken down
completely and has not resumed even when the children are adults. In other cases women felt
they had to cut off contact with one or more of their older children because their father had
‘poisoned them’ so much that their own mental health was being seriously compromised by
contact with their children.

This common emotional abusive tactic is often commonly employed as an integral part of an
abuser’s overall coercive control pattern and has long been recognised by domestic violence
services and described in Domestic Violence literature.37
In our experience this form of abuse against mothers, and children, is usually ignored in the
Family Courts.
Women’s Aid believes that in both scenarios where women are falsely accused of Parental
Alienation and where children are manipulated to ally with an abusive parent, the broader
context of a power imbalance, Coercive Control and complex abusive tactics need to be taken into
account to provide adequate and safe responses." All Parental Alienation campaigners agree that all false allegations must be addressed as it is a form of abuse as should parental alienation. Is womensaid saying that only women experience parental alienation and even if they feel this way why are they not supporting alienatted mothers grandmothers and daughters? Are they being selective about who is a victim? Parental Alienation Campaigners have Zero Tolerance against all abuse whether against Children Females or Males are Women's Aid?

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