Dr. Harry Barry:

Going back to the family, I could not agree more with the Deputy. If one imagines a group of things floating in a little tub of water, if one of them is banged, it bangs off the next, which bangs off the next. Unfortunately siblings often get very hurt by this. They often feel neglected and feel all the attention is going on the other child and they carry that little resentment into their adult life when it can start to cause difficulties later. This comes back to who is giving the parents the kind of support they need. Parents need to be learning those skills not just when the child is in crisis. This should be an ongoing process with parents and teachers learning the skills all the way along. One of those skills would be that when a child is distressed parents ensure they keep an eye on the other children. It can often be that the child they are not looking at will turn out to have the problem later on because they will feel rejected.

Were there any other issues for me?