Ms Marian ? Tuama:

Absolutely. When I explain the implications of counselling to someone, I say that part of it is me giving information to that person as to what the research states, what resources there are and what organisations the person can join and that the other part is working through how this is sitting with the person and they imagine it sitting with them in ten years. We might ask surrogates how they will talk to their kids about this and how they will draw boundaries within their own families. Everyone's family is different, and it is a matter of making sure that everybody has the same understanding of how this will be for the rest of their lives and how that will be knitted into their family stories.