Oireachtas Joint and Select Committees

Thursday, 19 May 2022

Joint Oireachtas Committee on International Surrogacy

Preventing the Sale, Exploitation and Trafficking of Children: Discussion

Ms Rachel Rowley-Smith:

I echo what Ms Roberts and Ms Baldwin have said. My birth mother said it was never for profit. I have never felt like a commodity or something materialistic. I have four half-siblings. She loves her family so much the thought of somebody out there who desperately wants a child and cannot have a child broke her heart. If she could let somebody experience that love of a family she said that she would have happily done it again. It has never been for profit.

I also agree with what Ms Roberts said about donor versus surrogacy. They must be compared as two very different things. The only thing that is slightly different for me is the question of identity. I may be the opposite to Ms Roberts and Ms Baldwin in that I look like my mum. I definitely look like my dad but the only thing that was in the papers was the fact that my mum was 50 when I was born. When I did find out three years ago it was a bit like "Whoa". It was mind blowing. Because I look so much like my mum I never had a clue. I would never say that there was any damage. There was a bit of confusion briefly but in the three years since it happened I am completely happy with my identity, with who I am and where I fit into this world.

While I have the floor I will make a point on birth certificates. My birth mother's name is on my birth certificate. This is something that does hurt me. That is the one thing. I completely agree that it should be my parents because they have earned the title of mum and dad. They have raised me. They are my parents. This is not to dismiss my birth mother at all, but they are my parents and they should be on my birth certificate. I agree that there should be some sort of link or database for complete legal or medical reasons. This is not to dismiss the selfless act that this birth mother has done but she is not my mother. I feel that this is very important to mention.

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